Finding a Woman's Maiden Name: 15 Places to Look

Women's maiden names are among the hardest facts to find in American records. These are the record types most likely to reveal one, and how to use them.

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For most of American history, a woman took her husband's surname at marriage, and many records after that point name her only as "Mrs. John Smith" or just "his wife." That makes her maiden name, the key to her parents and an entire branch of your tree, one of the most common brick walls in genealogy.

The good news is that a maiden name is rarely lost entirely. It usually turns up somewhere, often in a record created for someone else. Here's where to look, roughly from easiest to hardest.

Records about her

1. Her marriage record. The obvious first stop. Look for the license, the return, the bond, and any newspaper announcement. If you don't know where she married, try her hometown county as well as the husband's; weddings were often held in the bride's home community.
2. Her death certificate. Twentieth-century death certificates usually ask for the father's name and mother's maiden name. The informant may have been wrong, but it's a strong lead.
3. Her obituary. Obituaries often name her parents or say "the former Mary Brown," and list surviving brothers and sisters, whose surname is her maiden name. See Finding Obituaries and Death Records.
4. Her gravestone. Some stones give a full maiden name ("Mary Brown Smith"), and a woman may be buried in her parents' plot rather than her husband's, especially if she died young.
5. Her Social Security application. If she worked after 1936, her SS-5 application lists her father's name and mother's maiden name. See Social Security Records.
6. Church records. Many churches recorded women by maiden name in marriage, baptism and membership records, and some (especially German and Dutch congregations) continued to do so after marriage. See Church Records.

Records about her children

7. Her children's death certificates. Every child's certificate should give the mother's maiden name. Order them all. If they disagree, don't just count votes: five certificates can repeat the same family mistake. Ask who each informant was, how they would have known, and how close to her lifetime the record was made, then look for an independent record that settles it.
8. Her children's birth, marriage and Social Security records. Delayed birth certificates and marriage licenses from the 20th century often ask for both parents' names.
9. Her children's names. Families often gave a mother's maiden surname to a son as a first or middle name. A son named "Dawson Smith" suggests a Dawson connection worth checking.

Records about her parents and siblings

10. Her father's will and probate file. This is one of the best sources of all. A will may name "my daughter Mary, wife of John Smith," and the estate distribution may record payments to "John Smith and wife Mary." See Wills and Probate.
11. Deeds. When a father's land was divided among his heirs, every daughter and her husband had to sign to sell their share. A deed in which "John Smith and Mary his wife" sell land along with several people of another surname is a strong clue. See Land Records.
12. Census neighbors. Young couples often lived near one of their families. Look at the families on the pages around them in the first census after the marriage, and note any older couple who could be her parents.
13. Census households. An elderly "mother-in-law" or a "brother-in-law" living with the couple is gold. The 1880 and later censuses state the relationship to the head of household.

Records about the couple

14. Military pension files. A widow applying for her husband's pension had to prove the marriage. Her application usually gives her maiden name, the date and place of marriage, and sometimes testimony from her own relatives. See Military Records.
15. Witnesses and sponsors. The witnesses to a marriage, the godparents at a baptism and the bondsmen for a marriage license were often the bride's brothers, father or uncles. Note every name, then research the ones you don't recognize.

When nothing names her directly

Sometimes no single record states her maiden name, and you'll have to build a case from indirect evidence. That might look like this:

• The couple married in a county where only one family of a certain surname lived.
• That family's father died, and his estate was divided among heirs that included "John Smith."
• The Smiths named a son after that father.
• A DNA match descends from another child of that family.

No one piece proves it, but together they can. Write out your reasoning carefully, and see The Genealogical Proof Standard and The FAN Club for how experienced researchers do it.

Watch out for

• Previous marriages. If she was a widow when she married your ancestor, the surname on the marriage record is her first husband's, not her maiden name.
• Assumptions in online trees. A maiden name that appears in dozens of online trees may trace back to one person's guess. Ask for the source. See How to Use Online Family Trees.
• Informant errors. A death certificate is only as good as its informant, often a grieving child or spouse who may never have known the answer.